I talk a lot about my podcast. It is in the top five things I talk about when conducting a conversation and not because I’m trying to build it’s network. I talk about it because I love it. I truly believe it can help a lot of people who feel lost. If that means it gets networked too, that’s just a bonus!
That means that I hear a lot of opinions about what I’m doing. For the most part they are all complementary.
People share their stories of woe with the working world. Sometimes I even get interviews with people because they exclaim the love of their job! So, mostly positive.
But every once in awhile I get a nay say.
What’s a nay say you ask?
It’s where someone says something slightly negative, just with a nicer tone than an asshole would.
It’s like your mother telling you she doesn’t think it’s a good idea you quit your job to become a professional writer before you’ve written a book.
Usually, Nay-Sayers have good intentions but it’s still a drag to hear.
I fight the Nay Say with reflection.
Every time I hear a backwards reaction, I list it and think about it’s validity. If it’s valid I figure it out. If it isn’t, I find a way to explain why it isn’t.
Here’s the latest example:
I was talking to someone, we’ll call her Sam, about an interview I did with a professional food server who talked about the ladder that could be climbed in the food industry. She has discussed with me that her husband started as a dishwasher and now was a VP working to buy the whole chain!
I happily told Sam that it was awesome to hear that some jobs we figure are “dead ends” can have promise for people.
Sam looked at me smirking, with a little condemnation.
“Yeah, but not everyone who works in food can be a manger.”
I was a little stunned, because I didn’t understand why that was in even thought to be the case.
Of course not everyone who works in food can be a manager. Not everyone who works in food loves it. Not everyone who works in food wants to make it their career. Not everyone who works in food wants to better themselves to be good enough to be a manager in food.
That’s the whole point of my podcast.
It takes all kinds.
But that doesn’t mean that someone who wants to be an owner of a restaurant can’t, even if they start at the bottom. It shows that if you love something and work hard at something you can get to whatever level you’re willing to go to.
When I told my husband about this, he explained that I need to write them down.
“Figure out what exactly you want to say when someone nay says so that you can help them understand. Change their mind.”
So I did.
Being questioned and challenged is good. When you’re starting out you need to know your why along with your how.
Fight the Nay Sayers with the passion you started your thing with.
Find the explanations. The loopholes. The reasoning behind your method. Write them down, have them prepared. You never know when the next Nay Say will come.